Me and my daughter went to a shopping center today because she wanted to buy new jeans. She found one black pair (black is her preferred colour) and went to the trying room. I was waiting somewhere near… and it seemed to me strangely long. At last she went out, threw the jeans on a hanger rail and headed out of the shop with fast steps, saying “I can’t try on anything”.
“Why? Is something wrong with them?” I asked.
“It’s noise. I cannot stand this noise. Too many people in the trying rooms. And there was a child next to me, her toy was singing so loudly. I can’t!”
As a result, we didn’t make more attempts in other clothing shops. Moving to the entrance, she saw a shop of art and craft supplies and dived there with a relief. Paper, paints and incense sticks had a good effect on her. She bought some, and we returned home.
Such things happen quite often when my daughter tries to do shopping. Her reaction for noise and crowd is so strong that she is unable to continue the process, let alone enjoy it. She hates music playing in shops – why is it always so loud and rhythmic? I wonder if it’s a feature of Russian shopping centers only. She can say suddenly that she feels bad, or has a headache, or not in the mood to choose anyting. In such cases, we both go back in a bad mood.
Yes, I can be angry and tired and irritated, having to follow my child everywhere. But of course things are harder for her. We healthy people can’t imagine how it feels to live like that.
Sometimes everything goes fine though. She even manages to go to a shopping center alone and buy things she needs to. What does it depend on? I don’t know. But it’s preferable for her to go on weekdays when it’s not too crowded. And it should be a shop that she knows very well, so needn’t spend much energy for orienting. She analyzes her own sensations very carefully and learns all the time. Yes, our own efforts are not enough but I want to have a hope…
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